Beyond the News
This morning I came across an interesting article on CNN’s website about how men are getting addicted to pornography. The text was signed by Naomi Wolf, an American political activist who became famous in the early 90’s with the book The Beauty Mith and for her leadership in a new movement called “Third-Wave Feminism”.
Honestly, I did not know that porn could be an addiction, although I have heard about “addiction to sex” before. But I must admit that it makes sense nowadays. With the Internet it is much easier for anyone to access pornography for free.
I mean, Mrs Wolf compares this case with other type of addictions such as cocaine and gambling. She introduces strong arguments for that. But I do not think that someone can have an overdose to death or lose all money in the bank by watching porn. Or perhaps I am wrong!
Anyway, pornography can certainly affect a man’s social life and even the relationship with his partner. I must agree that it is a potential threat, but I also believe that in some cases porn can even help couples to improve their sexual life. It all depends on how you manage that. Mrs. Wolf mentions in this article studies that indicate the growth on number of young men suffering from impotence and/or premature ejaculation cracking on XXX movies. But, who can guarantee that the search for drugs or gambling is not a way to escape from the above problems as well?
What no one can deny is the fact that we live in a fast-moving world, where any of us can experience happiness and sadness in a fraction of a second; and different people behave in different ways when facing their daily complex challenges. Some of us use a downturn or upturn situation as a boost to conquer new goals or to find new horizons. Others go crazy, mad and simply deteriorate themselves in alcohol abuse, drug, gambling, etc.
I believe that we are all addicted to something! I have a friend who goes to the gym every day. When she misses it, she feels devastated. Should it be healthy? How about those students who dedicate themselves to their books so much that do not even have a social life?
The bottom line is: addiction is a psychological issue, which was well explained in details by Mrs. Wolf in this CNN’s article, but a lot of people still treating that on the point of view of “society morals”. In some cases it is applicable as a political weapon, for example: all over the world there are campaigns saying that drug users are responsible for drug trafficking and, consequently, responsible for all sins related to it. For me it is a simple way for governments to redeem themselves from their inexpressive actions towards better public health and national security. Being addicted to something does not (or should not) turn you on a criminal!
This type of campaign does not move us anywhere because once someone is addicted to drug (or movies) he/she will not give a penny for how it affects people around. They do not care even about themselves… The approach could be smoother in order to show comprehension to their cases instead of authority.
Now, let try to make a difference in this game! I want you to think for a few minutes in what you are/or might be addicted to and how you would/will do to change that. In my point of view you can only help others if you ever went through the same pain. So, as an exercise I would like to invite you to reflect and tell us in what you are addicted to? It can be anything: chocolate, music, Internet, sports… After you spot your type of addiction, please tell us (or more important, tell yourself), how would you live without that?
For example, I was (and perhaps still) addicted to surf. I could not think about anything else in my life except surfing. However, I have been living in Prague, Czech Republic, for the past 2 years and, although I miss the waves, nowadays I can control myself, focus my life in different priorities and improve myself in more important subjects, such as: family and professional career. It was not easy, but was necessary in order to grow as a person and as a world citizen!
So, tell us: what are you addicted to?